Character, like a photograph, develops in darkness.

Tim Ferriss has been listed as one of Fast Company’s “Most Innovative Business People” and one of Fortune’s “40 under 40.” He is an early-stage technology in...

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You either bring your partner up, or weigh them down. The hope is that you are both evenly weighted enough of the time to balance the scales.

Relationships are like weighing scales

Not for the physicality of it, but for the labour of clearing your mind of every other domestic distraction, to allow yourself to relax enough to enjoy it.

Sex in marriage is hard work

Don’t exercise to be thin. Exercise to be strong. The best place for ideas is alone and on the move. Start or end every day with writing about your life. Take what’s in your head and type it out, even if you don’t feel like you are thinking anything of note. There’s always something buried underneath the to do list in your head, something you didn’t realise you felt, that when written down, will make everything clearer.

Life lessons from a 44 year old

The participants ranged from a mid-60s couple who had just celebrated their 40th anniversary to a 99-year-old who had just celebrated 66 years of happiness with his bride.
In total, the advice captured 500+ years of earned wisdom from these beautiful relationships. Here's the relationship advice everyone needs to hear...

Introduction:

Someday you’ll find the other side of the bed empty and wish you could.

1. Tell your partner you love them every night before falling asleep.

Scoreboards are for sports games, not marriages.

2. Never keep score in love.

Laughing together goes a long way to smooth the inevitable bumps in the road.

3. Laugh until you cry.

I'm 99 and still courting my wife! Marriages don't get boring, you stop trying.

4. Never stop dating.

Take out the trash, refill the soap dispenser, put away the toys. Tiny acts of love and respect add up over time.

5. Do one act of service for your partner every day, but never tell them about it.

Don't delay difficult conversations.

6. Time doesn't heal when it comes to relationships.

This is part of the fundamental balance and tension of life. The joy of love comes in the same package as the pain of loss.

7. Don’t fear sadness, as it tends to sit right next to love.

When facing a challenge, face it together.

8. No one has ever argued their way to a happy marriage.

Sometimes it will be 90/10, sometimes it will be 10/90. All that matters is that it adds up to 100.

9. It can't always be 50/50.

Marriage should not be the end of individuality.

10. Maintain interests and passions separate from your partner's.

11. When in doubt, love.

Minor issues become major issues over time. Furthermore, most minor issues that persist or repeat are a result of a more fundamental issue with the foundation. Address those swiftly, as they won't repair themselves.

12. If your relationship has a minor issue, repair it.

Nothing good has ever come from shouting.

13. Never raise your voice with your partner.

The mutual desire for improvement is what builds a lifelong bond.

14. Every relationship is a work in progress.

Make a list of your daily needs to feel good. Make sure you and your partner are able to accomplish that list.

15. You cannot take care of your partner if you aren't taking care of yourself.

Stubborn pride is the downfall of relationships.

16. Is it more important to be right or to be married?

If you are struggling to apologize, go for a short walk, breathe, and try again. It's (almost) always worth it.

17. Always be quick to say "I'm sorry."

If there's something bothering you, ask whether it will matter in one month. If not, let it go right now.

18. Don't sweat small stuff.

It's a simple reminder of your love that goes a long way.

19. Start every day with a hug or a kiss.

20. Take pride in building a family with strong values.

Remember that when the two feel in conflict.

21. Marriage should always take priority over your birth family.

You'll forget about it, but they won't.

22. Never involve a non-professional 3rd party (parents, friends, siblings, coworkers) in disagreements.

A note under the pillow, a surprise bouquet, a peck on the cheek. Romance never goes out of style.

23. Keep doing the little things.

Know that your love will be tested, but that each test has the potential to leave it stronger.

24. Love is a muscle.

Allow each other the space to lead within different domains in your relationship.

25. Complementarity is just as important as compatibility.

Forget the approval of others. You won't be able to make everyone happy. Accept that and embrace each other.

26. Your love is yours.

There has never been a perfect relationship, but there have been many wonderful ones.
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27. It doesn’t have to be perfect for it to be wonderful.

All You Need Is Love. Marriage should not be the end of individuality & furthermore advices.

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“Great food and good company are two of life’s simplest yet greatest pleasures.”

Simple pleasures

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Happy holidays to you all!

If you are irritated by every rub, how will your mirror be polished?

Raise your words, not voice. It is rain that grows flowers, not thunder.

Lovers don't finally meet somewhere. They're in each other all along.

Everything in the universe is within you. Ask all from yourself.

Wherever you are, and whatever you do, be in love.

When you go through a hard period,When everything seems to oppose you,... When you feel you cannot even bear one more minute,NEVER GIVE UP!Because it is the time and place that the course will divert!

You are not a drop in the ocean. You are the entire ocean in a drop.

When someone is counting outgold for you, don't look at your hands,or the gold. Look at the giver

2344 quotes from Rumi: 'Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.', 'Out beyond ideas of wrongdoing 
and rightdoing there is a field.
I'll meet you there.

When the soul lies down in that grass
the world is too full to talk about.', and 'The wound is the place where the Light enters you.'

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Rumi Quotes (Author of The Essential Rumi)

𝐓𝐡𝐞 𝐛𝐞𝐬𝐭 𝐭𝐡𝐢𝐧𝐠𝐬 𝐢𝐧 𝐥𝐢𝐟𝐞 𝐚𝐫𝐞 𝐮𝐬𝐮𝐚𝐥𝐥𝐲 𝐟𝐨𝐮𝐧𝐝 𝐰𝐡𝐞𝐧 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐚𝐫𝐞 𝐧𝐨𝐭 𝐥𝐨𝐨𝐤𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐟𝐨𝐫 𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐦.

𝐀𝐦𝐚𝐳𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐅𝐚𝐜𝐭 𝐭𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐬𝐡𝐨𝐮𝐥𝐝 𝐤𝐧𝐨𝐰...

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Discovering Life's Best Things When You're Not Looking for Them

The enduring bond between Harry, Ron, and Hermione exemplifies the profound strength found in genuine friendships. Navigating challenges together and unwavering support define this powerful connection.

1.The Power of Friendship:

Harry's journey, riddled with challenges, underscores the significance of confronting fear and adversity. His resilience emphasizes the vital role courage plays in overcoming life's obstacles.

2. Courage in the Face of Adversity:

Caracters like Harry and his friends courageously defy injustice, emphasizing the imperative to resist wrongdoing and advocate for what is right, even in the face of daunting odds.

3. Standing Up Against Injustice: 

The narrative underscores the potency of unity. When individuals unite for a shared purpose, their collective strength and resilience surpass individual capacities, highlighting the transformative force of togetherness.

4. Unity and Strength

The story encourages making choices rooted in kindness and empathy. This narrative thread emphasizes that understanding and compassion are not only virtues but essential qualities that foster harmonious relationships.

5. Choosing Kindness and Empathy:

Woven throughout the book is the theme of love as a transformative power. Whether familial or born of friendship, love possesses the extraordinary ability to effect positive change and healing.

6. Love as a Transformative Force:

Despite Harry's tragic past, the narrative emphasizes his agency to shape his destiny. This lesson resonates profoundly, highlighting that one's history need not dictate the trajectory of their future.

7.  The Past Doesn't Define the Future:

7 valuable lessons from "Harry Potter and the Sorcerer's stone" (Part 1)

Harry Potter spent ten long years living with Mr. and Mrs. Dursley, an aunt and uncle whose outrageous favoritism of their perfectly awful son Dudley leads to some of the most inspired dark comedy since Charlie and the Chocolate Factory. But fortunately for Harry, he's about to be granted a scholarship to a unique boarding school called THE HOGWORTS SCHOOL OF WITCHCRAFT AND WIZARDRY, where he will become a school hero at the game of Quidditch (a kind of aerial soccer played high above the ground on broomsticks), he will make some wonderful friends, and, unfortunately, a few terrible enemies. For although he seems to be getting your run-of-the-mill boarding school experience (well, ok, even that's pretty darn out of the ordinary), Harry Potter has a destiny that he was born to fulfill. A destiny that others would kill to keep him from.

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Joanne Rowling CH OBE FRSL, also known by her pen name J. K. Rowling, is a British author and philanthropist. She wrote Harry Potter, a seven-volume children's fantasy series published from 1997 to 2007.

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Harry Potter and the Sorcerer's Stone

Death is a strange thing. People live their whole lives as if it does not exist, and yet it's often one of the great motivations for living. Some of us, in time, become so conscious of it that we live harder, more obstinately, with more fury. Others become so preoccupied with it that they go into the waiting room long before it has announced its arrival. We fear it, yet most of us fear more than anything that it may take someone other than ourselves. For the greatest fear of death is always that it will pass us by. And leave us there

We always think there's enough time to do things with other people. Time to say things to them. And then something happens and then we stand there holding on to words like 'if'.

You only need one ray of light to chase all the shadows away,

All roads lead to something you were predestined to do.

It is difficult to admit that one is wrong. Particularly when one has been wrong for a very long time.

BUT SHE WAS COLOR. ALL THE COLOR HE HAD.

Read the New York Times bestseller that has taken the world by storm In this "charming debut" (People) from one of Sweden's most successful authors, a grumpy yet loveable man finds his solitary world turned on its head when a boisterous young family moves in next door. Meet Ove. He's a curmudgeon--the kind of man who points at people he dislikes as if they were burglars caught outside his bedroom window. He has staunch principles, strict routines, and a short fuse. People call him "the bitter neighbor from hell." But must Ove be bitter just because he doesn't walk around with a smile plastered to his face all the time? Behind the cranky exterior there is a story and a sadness. So when one November morning a chatty young couple with two chatty young daughters move in next door and accidentally flatten Ove's mailbox, it is the lead-in to a comical and heartwarming tale of unkempt cats, unexpected friendship, and the ancient art of backing up a U-Haul. All of which will change one cranky old man and a local residents' association to their very foundations. A feel-good story in the spirit of The Unlikely Pilgrimage of Harold Fry and Major Pettigrew's Last Stand, Fredrik Backman's novel about the angry old man next door is a thoughtful exploration of the profound impact one life has on countless others. "If there was an award for 'Most Charming Book of the Year, ' this first novel by a Swedish blogger-turned-overnight-sensation would win hands down" (Booklist, starred review).

Fredrik Backman is the #1 New York Times bestselling author of A Man Called Ove (soon to be a major motion picture starring Tom Hanks), My Grandmother Asked Me to Tell You She’s Sorry, Britt-Marie Was Here, Beartown, Us Against You, as well as two novellas, And Every Morning the Way Home Gets Longer and Longer and The Deal of a Lifetime. Things My Son Needs to Know About the World, his first work of non-fiction, will be released in the US in May 2019. His books are published in more than forty countries. He lives in Stockholm, Sweden, with his wife and two children. Connect with him on Twitter @BackmanLand or on Instagram @backmansk.

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A Man Called Ove

Do these Six things to make 2024 the best year of your life :) 👇

Six things you can do to make 2024 the best year!

Set clear goals for the year, Personal or Professional but have a roadmap of what you want to achieve this year.

Plan your goals clearly

Focus on Mental Health, seek help if you need it, meditate, have a walk every morning in nature to relax, and Set Boundaries.

Mental Health Matters

Be curious and Learn from anyone you can, read a new book, learn a new skill or try a new hobby. Expanding knowledge and trying new things is interesting and rewarding.

Expand Your Knowledge 

Stay connected with your loved ones, make an effort to reach your family, and friends and plan regular calls or hangouts to stay close.

Connect with your loved ones

Get involved in the community, Whether it's by volunteering or by participating in contests. Making a positive impact in your community will give you a sense of fulfilment.

Involve in the community

Practice Gratitude, take time in a day to reflect on things you are grateful for. This will help you focus on your positive side rather than the negative side.

Gratitude 

If you love the above ideas, make sure you follow me :)I post once or twice a week.Have an amazing week :)

End note 

These ideas helped me this whole year , so it might help you too :)

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A study from Aalto University in Finland explored 27 different types of love and how they manifest in the body:
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<li>558 Finnish speakers answered questions about how they felt and how frequently they experienced these 27 types of love in their bodies.</li>
<li>The study highlights the diversity and complexity of love, showing that even within this one emotion, we experience variations in location, intensity, and controllability. It also acknowledges the inherent difficulty of defining and categorizing love due to its subjective nature. Ultimately, the research challenges a rigid view of love.</li>
</ul>

Mapping love across the body

Researchers identified 27 types of love, encompassing feelings for humans (romantic, parent-child, etc.), non-human beings (animals, nature), and abstract concepts (wisdom, country). Their approach draws on the "prototype theory of love," which suggests certain types are closer to the core concept of love (e.g., romantic love).

Researchers identified 27 types of love

Their aim wasn't to create a definitive list of all possible loves, but to investigate several key questions:<ol><li>Location: Where in the body are different types of love felt?</li><li>Nature: How does each type relate to emotional valence, physical/mental experience, and controllability</li><li>Similarity: How closely related are different types of love in terms of bodily and mental experiences?</li></ol>

All love types were felt in the head, though intensity varied. Stronger affections like true love and passionate love activated the chest more, while weaker ones like love of wisdom were mainly head-centered.

Location

Interpersonal love types were stronger than those for non-human beings or ideas. Within categories, true love, passionate love, love for life, and love for nature were strongest, while love for strangers and practical love were weakest. Interestingly, love for life and nature ranked as high as family/friend love and higher than self-love.

Self-love was the most controllable but least frequently experienced. In terms of "touch," self-love was stronger than love for life and nature, possibly hinting at its social nature.

Touch and Control

A strong correlation emerged between bodily and mental salience and valence - the more prominent a love in the body, the stronger it is felt in the mind and the more pleasurable it is. This link between body and mind suggests that love isn't just something in your head – it's a whole-body experience, and the stronger it feels physically, the deeper and more joyful it feels emotionally.

Mind-Body Link

This research challenges the focus on romantic/parental love in psychology and neuroscience, contributing to a broader understanding of love's diverse landscape. Rinne hopes this encourages both theoretical development and public discussions about love in all its forms.

A research group at Aalto University conducted a study to explore how different types of love are experienced in various parts of the body.

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Mapping love: How 27 different types of love manifest in the body

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