<ul><li>Praise we've earned can be motivating and help us build confidence. </li><li>Narcissists may use praise to control others by manipulating their sense of self-worth and relational security. </li><li>Narcissists may use praise as love, praise as intimacy, praise as unearned entitlement, and praise paired with abuse to disempower others. </li> </ul>Ah, praise. It can lift us up and send us flying to lofty heights. It can validate, it can motivate, and it can inspire. And, as is true of anything with the power to make us feel so good, praise has a dark side. In the wrong hands, praise has the power to harm.

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<ol><li>Praise is not love. Praise is conditional and may be offered or withheld. Love, particularly of a child, must be freely given regardless of performance, behavior, or "status." Love is always there. Praise comes and goes. </li><li>Praise can only be granted by others. Where there is praise, there is always the absence of praise, because praise can only be granted by someone else. As a source of self-worth, it is not sustainable or sustaining because it is external, fleeting, and ultimately beyond our control. </li><li>Unearned praise is disempowering. Whereas love only feels genuine when it is freely given, praise only feels genuine when we've earned it. Unearned praise disempowers others, particularly children, by sending the message that praise is an entitlement rather than something earned with hard work. </li><li>Praise can lead to over-reliance. When we lack feelings of self-love and cannot validate ourselves internally, we can become over-reliant on external praise from others. </li> </ol>

Understanding Praise

3. Unearned praise is disempowering. Whereas love only feels genuine when it is freely given, praise only feels genuine when we've earned it. Unearned praise disempowers others, particularly children, by sending the message that praise is an entitlement rather than something earned with hard work.4. Praise can lead to over-reliance. When we lack feelings of self-love and cannot validate ourselves internally, we can become over-reliant on external praise from others.

As we know, the <a href="https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/basics/narcissism">narcissistic </a><a href="https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/basics/personality">personality </a>tends to be relationally antagonistic: competitive, exploitative, and oppressively controlling. Narcissists themselves often seek out praise, and they often use praise to manipulate and control others.

<ol><li>Narcissists use praise in place of love. At the core of the narcissistic personality is a flawed belief that praise is love. In dysfunctional narcissistic families and relationships, acceptance is conditional and praise is used instead of love. Using praise as affection fosters insecurity in others and gives the narcissist control over their sense of relational safety and self-worth.</li></ol>

2. Narcissists "love-bomb" with praise to fake <a href="https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/basics/relationships">intimacy </a>. Love and intimacy are developed through reciprocity, shared vulnerability, and earned trust. Intimacy should never be experienced as a fiery explosion. But narcissistic people often engage in love-bombing, in which they use excessive praise, <a href="https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/basics/attention">attention </a>, and flattery to seduce others into unwarranted trust and premature commitment.

3. Narcissists treat praise as entitlement. People, particularly children, who are reinforced for their efforts internalize a sense of agency and earned <a href="https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/basics/confidence">confidence </a>, which fosters <a href="https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/basics/self-esteem">self-esteem </a>and healthy independence. By contrast, praising people for being special or superior rather than for their hard work fosters an unearned and therefore insecure sense of entitlement. By granting "special" status and privilege to a chosen few and by denying it to others, narcissists dictate what people value in themselves and those around them.

4. Narcissists use praise to foster dependency and reliance. By alternating praise and forms of abuse, narcissists foster dependency and even reliance in others. Children or partners treated to this type of manipulation can become <a href="https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/basics/trauma">trauma </a>-bonded to the narcissist, who uses intermittent reinforcement to control the activation of their <a href="https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/basics/fear">fear </a>response (fight/flight) and reward system (<a href="https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/basics/dopamine">dopamine </a>).

We all can benefit at times from praise that we've earned. Humans are social animals who naturally seek validation from the group, and praise for our efforts can be motivating and help us build confidence that can sustain us through times of trial and adversity. But praise used as a substitute for love or intimacy, granted as an unearned entitlement, or paired with abuse is manipulative and disempowering, and it can create trauma bonds between narcissists and those they seek to dominate.

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The first thing that you see from Tommy is that he has slow, relaxed movements. When he isn't physically fighting, he’s almost never in a rush. The way he moves instantly gives you the sense that he’s above feeling intimidated. When you move slowly and comfortably in a situation where most people would be stressed, it shows that you don’t feel scared or pressured.

Make Slow, Relaxed Movements

Along with the slow movement there’s a second body language habit that helps Tommy appear confident: Tommy is comfortable holding eye contact even during conflict. The one mistake you could make with this is trying to hold eye contact all the time: this can actually escalate the tension if neither of you is willing to break. So the goal isn’t to never break eye contact; it’s just to know what your behavior signals to other people.

Hold Eye Contact, Even During Conflict

Hold eye contact if you want to show you aren’t intimidated; look down if your priority is to de-escalate; and if you want to diffuse the situation without projecting fear of discomfort, you can hold eye contact for three to five seconds and then break to the side instead of down.

But Know What Eye Contact Signals

Tommy’s ability to command respect in moments of conflict comes from the fact that he’s not reactive to hostility. Being non-reactive shows you feel confident in your ability to handle whatever is happening: it’s hard not to respect someone who keeps their cool in situations where most people would lose it. Of course, the goal here isn’t to fake that you’re OK while freaking out on the inside: it’s to cultivate a genuine deep internal confidence.

Be Non-Reactive To Hostility; But Genuinely

One more quick body language habit you should steal from Tommy if you want to command attention, specifically in large groups: be as big as your audience. Scale up your hand gestures when you’re speaking to more people.

Be As Big As Your Audience

The next way you can command respect is by focusing on how you speak. The first thing you notice about Tommy when he speaks is that his word choice shows conviction. Specifically when he talks about his plans for the future he doesn’t say “I hope to” or “I want to”, but “I will”.

Show Conviction With Your Words

Beyond word choice, you can show conviction with just your tone. Many people do the opposite, ending their statements in an upward inflection, making them sound like questions. This gives the impression that you’re unsure of yourself. So, if you wanna show conviction with just your tone, end your statements in a downward inflection.

Show Conviction With Your Tone

Similar to his slow body language, Tommy also has a slow speaking cadence and uses pauses between words to hold attention. The pause is the moment when you’re not speaking, but ironically it’s the moment you can pull people in. Tommy does this by pausing when you most want to hear what he has to say. You may worry that speaking slowly and pausing a lot will lead to people cutting you off: the way you can prevent this isn’t by rushing to finish or giving up on your thought halfway through, but by continuing to speak in that same slow speaking cadence until you at least finish your sentence.

Speak Slowly And Use Pauses

One of Tommy’s defining features is that he wields tremendous power over people using carrot-stick motivation. Now, obviously we don’t want to be threatening to murder people, so how on earth can we actually apply this to our own life? Well, let’s say you want a raise or a promotion from work: a lot of people would go in and say “hey, boss, I’ve been working here a long time, I would really like a raise, can I have more money?”. Very focused on “I”, not very persuasive.

Use Carrot-Stick Motivation 

How could you instead apply carrot-stick thinking? You could say “hey, boss, I feel like I can add more value to the company and play at a higher level; what would you need to see from me in the next three months to promote me?” Work with your boss to create a concrete list. Then, nail everything on that list. At the same time go out and get other job offers. In 3 months you can show all the value created for your boss (carrot) and, if they back out from the agreement, you can tell them that you want to stay, but you have other offers that pay more (that’s the stick).

Carrot-Stick Thinking Done Right

When talking about why Tommy Shelby commands so much respect that he doesn’t have to shout or raise his voice, we must remember that Tommy either knows what people desperately want and can give it to them or he knows what people desperately fear and can prevent it. So his quiet words carry massive weight.

And Take It All With A Pinch Of Salt

People love Tommy Shelby from Peaky Blinders: he’s a quiet introverted character and at the same time extremely charismatic. While we don’t want to be like Tommy in every way, there are eight habits we can learn from him to instantly command more respect from the people around us. 

Join Over 13,000 Members At Charisma University: https://bit.ly/3Nondse Subscribe to Charisma On Command’s YouTube Account: http://bit.ly/COC-Subscribe People love Tommy Shelby from Peaky Blinders. He’s a quiet, introverted character, and at the same time extremely charismatic. While you don’t want to be like Tommy in every way, there are 8 habits you can learn from him to instantly command respect from the people around you. ⏰TIMESTAMPS⏰ 0:00 - Intro 0:21 - #1: Have slow, relaxed movements 0:57 - #2: Hold eye contact, even during conflict 1:57 - #3: Be non-reactive to hostility 3:00 - #4: Be as big as your audience 3:33 - #5: Show conviction with your words 3:56 - #6: Show conviction with your tone 4:26 - #7: Speak slowly and use pauses between words 6:23 - #8: Use carrot / stick motivation -------------------------------------------------------------------------------- #PeakyBlinders #ThomasShelby #CharismaOnCommand -------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Connect with us further: Website: http://www.charismaoncommand.com Facebook: http://facebook.com/charismaoncommand Instagram: @CharismaOnCommand

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People love Tommy Shelby from Peaky Blinders.  He’s a quiet, introverted character, and at the same time extremely charismatic.

While you don’t want to be like Tommy in every way, there are 8 habits you can learn from him to instantly command respect from the people around you.


⏰TIMESTAMPS⏰ 

0:00 - Intro
0:21 - #1: Have slow, relaxed movements
0:57 - #2: Hold eye contact, even during conflict
1:57 - #3: Be non-reactive to hostility
3:00 - #4: Be as big as your audience
3:33 - #5: Show conviction with your words
3:56 - #6: Show conviction with your tone
4:26 - #7: Speak slowly and use pauses between words
6:23 - #8: Use carrot / stick motivation


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Someday is Today by Matthew Dicks.

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"Every Sentence I Write..."

It reminds us of the Power of the minute.It’s so easy for us to squander the hours but actually, life is made out of one minute at a time.And we can use that time to do things that are more intentional and help take us toward our goals.

Do things that are more Intentional.

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The flags of two countries hang unfurled — not by any breeze but by metal wiring — over the desolate, eerily still surface of the moon. One is the stars and stripes of the United States; the other, the crimson of China. But if you ask any official from these countries, they will tell you that these flags do not represent a property claim of any kind. They're more like extraterrestrial graffiti.But if planting a flag on the moon doesn't count as a property claim, then what does? And when you get down to it, can anyone actually own the moon? Does anyone have sovereignty over the moon?

Who Owns The Moon?

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When it comes to things that are funny, chemistry jokes and chemistry puns aren’t always top of mind. But as it turns out, there’s a lot of <a href="https://www.fatherly.com/life/dad-jokes">dad joke </a>material to be made from protons, electrons, and the periodic table. Chemistry may seem like a serious topic, but those who know it best have managed to make some seriously <a href="https://www.fatherly.com/play/57-funny-jokes-kids-adults-who-like-dumb-jokes/">funny jokes </a>out of it.

The genius of chemistry jokes is that they require an understanding of basic chemistry principles: Those with background chemistry knowledge will be in on the chemistry joke, and those who lack an understanding have reason to learn to roll with the chemistry puns. That vaguely aspirational quality makes them the perfect learning tool — and good, wholesome fun in the dad joke tradition. These funny chemistry jokes will definitely get — wait for it — a reaction.

<ol><li>Have you heard the one about a chemist who was reading a book about helium? He just couldn’t put it down.</li><li>Anyone know any jokes about sodium? Na.</li><li>What did the scientist say when he found two isotopes of helium? “HeHe.”</li><li>A proton and a neutron are walking down the street. The proton says, “Wait, I dropped an electron. Help me look for it.” The neutron says “Are you sure?” The proton replies, “I’m positive.”</li><li>Why couldn’t Sulfur, Argon, Calcium, and Samarium ever tell it straight? Because, SArCaSm.</li><li>What do you do with a dead chemist? Barium.</li><li>What’s a sign of a bad chemistry joke? No reaction.</li></ol>

Chemistry Jokes for Kids

8. Hey, want to hear a joke about potassium? …K.h9. Why are atoms not considered trustworthy? They make up everything.10.:Why do chemists find it easy to work with ammonia? It’s pretty basic.11. What do you say when someone throws sodium chloride at you? “That’s a salt.”12. Why shouldn’t you drink water while studying? It decreases your concentration!13. Why did Avogadro love golf? He always got a mole in one!14. What do you call an acid with attitude? A-mean-o-acid.15. How often does a chemist need coffee? They need caffeine periodically.

Chemistry Jokes For Kids

16. How do you insult someone who’s good looking? You’re so basic, you’re a 10 on the pH scale.17. What do you say when you run out of chemistry jokes? “I should zinc of new ones.”18. What did their friends say when they found out oxygen and magnesium were dating? “O-Mg.”19. What did one acid say to the other? “You’re overreacting.”20. What did the cat say after drinking methanol? “MeOH MeOH.”21. Why was the DJ called DJ Enzyme? He was always breaking it down.22. Are you full of beryllium, gold, and titanium? Because you are BeAuTi-Full.

23. What did the atom say at the electron sale? “One cation’s trash is another anion’s treasure.”24. What did the chemist say when there was an explosion in the lab? “Oxidants happen.”25. Why do chemists like nitratesso much? They are cheaper than day rates.26. Old chemists never die. Why? They just stop reacting.27. Why is organic chemistry so hard? The subject has alkynes of trouble.28. What did one charged atom say to the other? “I got my ion you.”29. What did the thermometer say to the graduated cylinder? “You may have graduated, but I’ve got many degrees.”

30. Why should you go drinking with neutrons? Because wherever they go, there’s no charge!31. Why do Florium, Uranium, and Nitrogen always have such a blast? Because they’re FUN.32. What happened when carbon and hydrogen went on a date? They really bonded.33. Why does a hamburger have less energy than a steak? Because it’s in the ground state!34. What do you call a clown in jail? A silicon!35. Want to hear a joke about nitrogen oxide? NO!36. Chemists are so happy in the lab because they’re in their element.37. Titanium is an amorous metal. When it gets hot, it will combine with anything!

Chemistry Jokes Fir Kids 

38. What do the other elements say about hydrogen? “He’s such a loner!”39. What is HIJKLMNO? H2O!40. What do you do with a sick chemist? If you can’t helium, and you can’t curium, then you might as well barium.41. What do chemists call a benzene ring where the carbon atoms are replaced with iron atoms? A ferrous wheel.42. Why did the white bear dissolve in water? Because it was polar!43. What element derives from a Norse god? Thorium.

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Chemistry may seem like a serious topic, but it's ripe for some seriously funny jokes. These 41 funny chemistry jokes won't disappoint.

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<a href="https://www.goodreads.com/en/book/show/44525766-loserthink">Loserthink </a>talks about the sabotaging thinking habits that run our minds and paralyze us when it comes to taking charge of life, and how we can overcome them with small, incremental steps that drive powerful change.

Book Summary 

"Every skill you acquire doubles your odds of success."

Author Quot

There are many ways in which we can fall victim to our negative emotions and self-sabotaging thoughts. These habits can lead us to make bad decisions, be less effective at work, and even lose out on opportunities. One of the first things to do when you suspect you may be falling into a pattern of loser thinking is to take an honest look at your current situation. Think about what is causing you stress, what makes you unhappy, and why it is that things never seem to work out for you.

Book Overview 

Then, it’s time to start thinking about what changes need to be made in order for your life to improve. You should ask yourself whether or not there are any steps or actions that could be taken in order for things to get better.  Scott Adams’ <a href="https://www.goodreads.com/en/book/show/44525766-loserthink">Loserthink </a>will not only teach you how to spot <a href="https://fourminutebooks.com/get-out-of-your-head-summary/">negative thinking habits </a>but also how to overcome them.

Scott Adams’ <a href="https://www.goodreads.com/en/book/show/44525766-loserthink">Loserthink </a>will not only teach you how to spot <a href="https://fourminutebooks.com/get-out-of-your-head-summary/">negative thinking habits </a>but also how to overcome them.

<ol><li>Use your apparently negative traits as tools to upgrade yourself. </li><li>The past is not an indicator of the future, and grand projects might not be so scary if you break them down into simple steps. </li><li>Ditch the victim mentality and start seeing the opportunities in people and yourself without criticizing or judging. </li></ol>I know, these lessons don’t sound as if they’re bringing something new to the table, but trust me, once you take them one by one, you’ll be surprised to find out how they can improve your life.

Top 3 Lessons From Book

There is a lot of <a href="https://fourminutebooks.com/how-to-think-more-effectively-summary/">unproductive thinking </a>that goes on in the world. Most of us fall victim to it at one time or another. The first step in dealing with this problem is recognizing that we are not victims and that there are certain habits we can change if we want to stop being so negative. Have you ever wondered why certain people always look so well put-together, so content, and professional? Well, they might be wondering the same about other people! The truth is, we’re all putting up a show.

Lesson 1: Even seemingly negative characteristics of yours can help you advance in life.

Successful people, like anybody else, have gaps in their knowledge, moments where they doubt themselves, and deal with the impostor syndrome at times. However, they don’t let these negative thoughts take charge of who they are. Just like them, you too can use your <a href="https://fourminutebooks.com/ego-friendly-summary/">ego </a>to upgrade your spirit and change your behavior. It all boils down to body language, a good posture, and a confident tone. You rule your own mind and body, not vice-versa, so use your ego to boost yourself.

The first thing you notice when you look at your past is where you stand in that situation. This comes naturally for our brain, as it’s one of the mechanisms we use to prepare for the future. We think that patterns are indicators, but the truth is that it doesn’t always work like that. Past events don’t necessarily repeat themselves, but we fail to think so when we remember them. That’s because we are subjective in our memories and our brain is wired to stay in the risk-free zone. Naturally, the decision we draw is that we won’t engage in new and exciting situations, due to past failures.

Lesson 2:  Don’t think of the past as a future reference, and don’t let big projects scare you  .

Another negative thinking cycle we engage in is thinking that <a href="https://fourminutebooks.com/making-ideas-happen-summary/">big projects </a>are exhausting or undoable, which is why we never start them. However, psychology suggests that this is yet another brain mechanism that we use to stay in our comfort zone. If we break down big projects into micro-steps, the chances of achieving the end goal grow significantly. Why? Because as humans, our readiness to start working on small, achievable projects is much bigger than if we’re facing a huge objective.

So, next time you have a bigger goal to target, think of it as a series of small projects with a deadline. You can use this approach to any project, big or small. Whether you’re trying to wake up earlier or open up a small start-up, this trick will help you manage your time and stress better.

Our brain has a collection of unproductive thinking habits that get in the way of success. One thing that we do is get anchored in negative thinking habits, like <a href="https://fourminutebooks.com/the-undoing-project-summary/">biases </a>and assumptions.  Sometimes we fail to recognize that some people are truly great, and we have a lot to learn from them. Why? Well, it could be that our brain associates them with someone we don’t like from the past, or that we are judging them based on their physical features.

Lesson 3:  Clear up your thoughts and always clarify them with people when you have assumptions or misunderstandings  .

Confirmation bias is an example of loserthink, where we look for and interpret information in a way that confirms our current beliefs or hypotheses. Over-generalization is another example, where we draw broad conclusions from too little evidence.  To move past these biases, always ask a person for clarification and try to look beyond their appearance. Try not to be judgemental and be open to communication, while learning from everybody around you.

<a href="https://www.goodreads.com/en/book/show/44525766-loserthink">Loserthink </a>examines the various ways in which we engage in unproductive thinking habits. The book covers topics such as: <ul><li>How to identify when you’re engaging in loserthink </li><li>How to avoid loserthink in your daily life </li><li>How to recognize when someone else is engaging in loserthink </li> </ul>The book manages to pull us out of this negative loop by pointing out these aspects and teaching us how to correct them.

Loserthink - Book Review

The 24-year-old person who is dealing with negative self-talk, the 33-year-old person who is suffering from burnout from a job that doesn’t bring them happiness and wants to change their life, or the 40-year-old coach who wants to learn what to tell people to change their life.

Who would I recommend the Loserthink to?

Loserthink summary talks about the sabotaging thinking habits that run our minds and how we can overcome them with small, incremental steps.

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Mental Health

Loserthink Summary

<a href="https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/52036.Siddhartha">Siddhartha </a>presents the self-discovery expedition of a man during the time of the Buddha who, unsure of what life really means to him, takes an exploratory journey to pursue the highs and lows of life, which ultimately leads him to discover the equilibrium in all things and a higher wisdom within.

Book Summary

"Some of us think holding on makes us strong, but sometimes it is letting go."

Author Quote 

<a href="https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/52036.Siddhartha">Siddhartha </a>is a young Brahman to whom common pleasures like food, companionship, or wealth are not satisfying enough. His soul is searching for a higher meaning in life. Therefore, he sets a goal to move past fear and experience the contrasts and divergences of the world. His journey takes him from wealthy and luxurious beginnings to a humble life in which he gives up all comforts. He soon becomes unrecognizable from starvation and sunburn, but he feels more fulfilled than before. By experiencing life’s contrasts, Siddhartha learns more about himself than he ever has.

Book Overview

Siddhartha meets Govinda, a friend from childhood who is also seeking self-realization. They discover that desire causes suffering because it makes humans attached to things they want but do not have.

<ol><li>Siddharta realizes that the material world is not complete without the spiritual one, and vice versa. </li><li>The fisherman is a metaphor for the enlightenment we’re all looking for, one way or another. </li><li>All things coexist in a beautiful unity that contains everything living and dead. </li></ol>The secrets of enlightenment may be easier to uncover than you think, and these lessons will prove it to you!

3 Top Book Lessons

The story of Siddhartha’s journey to <a href="https://fourminutebooks.com/enlightenment-now-summary/">enlightenment </a>is a story of the interplay between materiality and spirituality. At first, he thinks that the material world is all there is. But then he realizes that it’s not complete without the spiritual one, and vice versa.  The book is a story of discovery — of the world, of himself, and of his purpose in it. Siddhartha begins as a young man who is unsatisfied with his life. He adopts a life of asceticism to discover enlightenment. But then he realizes that this path is incomplete without the physical world.

Lesson 1:  True harmony comes from living peacefully with oneself and finding balance between spirituality and materiality  .

He then moves to the other extreme and lives as a materialist by having a well-paid job, being with a woman, and indulging in consumerism, good food, as well as bodily pleasures. However, he finds this lifestyle lacks spirituality so he decides that there must be an equilibrium between the two. Siddharta finds balance where spirituality meets the materialistic world from a fisherman who tells him that <a href="https://fourminutebooks.com/mindsight-summary/">the river </a>holds all secrets. The river is coming and moving into the oceans, which is a great representation of how everything in the universe interconnects, including these two worlds.

In life, we all have to find our light or goal and reach it to fulfill ourselves. In this novel, the fisherman represents Siddhartha’s goal of enlightenment and freedom from his suffering. Because he was so entranced by the beauty of nature, the fisherman has no desire to be a part of society’s rules or expectations. He is an outsider who lives in his own world and only gets involved when it suits him. He has no ambition beyond what he needs in order to live comfortably. The fisherman catches fish as they come out of the water to eat them once they’ve been hooked on his line.

Lesson 2:  Just as Siddhartha found a light in the fisherman, we must look for our own source of enlightenment and follow it  .

When Siddhartha meets him first as a young man and again later in life after many years have passed, he finds himself attracted to this lifestyle. That’s because it seems so freeing compared to what he has known before then. When you let go of society’s expectations and learn what fulfills your soul both through the spiritual and physical world, you’ll know what you have to do. Once you set your mind and heart to follow that purpose, you’ll find<a href="https://fourminutebooks.com/the-story-of-philosophy-summary/">enlightenment </a>as well.

The <a href="https://fourminutebooks.com/the-universe-has-your-back-summary/">universe </a>is highly interconnected and vast. It’s almost as if there is no beginning or end to it, which makes it as mysterious as it is beautiful. To understand this magnitude of information, Siddhartha turns to the river. As he travels in the forest, Siddhartha encounters many experiences that change his life forever. He learns that all things are connected: by nature, by their environment, by their purpose, by their thoughts.

Lesson 3:  The Universe is made of all things combined, living in a harmonious union  .

The river is used as a metaphor for this idea. It comes from a mountain stream and eventually flows into an ocean. As Siddhartha watches it flow through every stage of its journey, he realizes that he himself is just like the river. He has come from somewhere else and will eventually return in nature.  He sees that he can learn from everyone around him because they have all been through similar experiences as him before; yet each person has his own unique way of seeing things that makes them unique too.

<a href="https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/52036.Siddhartha">Siddhartha </a>is a young man who leaves home to find meaning in life. He meets many people on his journey who help him find inner peace and enlightenment. The book teaches us that if we want to be free from desire and find peace within ourselves, we must reach nirvana (a state of blissful emptiness). This lecture is not a guide to <a href="https://fourminutebooks.com/waking-up-summary/">meditation </a>or a self-help book, but rather a pleasant and empowering tale that will change your perspective on life forever. Better yet, it’ll help you understand what it means to have inner peace with yourself as well as with others around you.

Siddhartha - Book Review

The 40-year-old person who feels troubled in their soul even though they’re fulfilled professionally, the 33-year-old who had a life-altering experience and wants to reconnect with their higher being, or the 20-something-year-old who achieved conventional success early in their life and is now looking to embrace spirituality.

Who would I recommend the Siddhartha to?

Our summary of Siddhartha by Hermann Hesse tells the story of a young man going on a journey to find himself while teaching you 3 lessons.

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Philosophy

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Religion & Spirituality

Siddhartha Summary

The fact is that we all have the same number of hours in the day, and it’s up to us to decide how we spend them.We each have our own personal values, concerns, and preferences.

"I've prioritized other things in my day"

There are 24 hours in a day, or 1,440 minutes. The average person sleeps around eight hours, that leaves 16 waking hours left to spend however we want. We need to subtract the seven to eight hours a day during which most people work; so, we’re down to nine remaining hours. Much of those nine hours are taken up by life administration: shopping, housework, unpaid labor (e.g. care work), and eating and drinking.

The anatomy of a day

In short, this is the rule where we spend one hour a day learning, reflecting, and thinking.We do this five times a week.The idea is that devoting an hour of your day to education exercises the mind, improves your skills, and rehearses great discipline.

The 5-hour rule

Here are three “first steps” to the 5-hour rule:<ol><li>Learn…however you can- Reading print on a book is one way, but podcasts, audiobooks, and spoken radio are all great ways to spend your hour.</li><li>Experiment- The most successful people in life were not those who stumbled on magic , but who tried and failed, tried, and failed again. Try something new, try something differently. When we experiment, we both have fun and learn a great deal.</li><li>Reflect-  This might mean a diary, journal, or time spent simply ruminating. When we reflect on our days and our mistakes, we turn failures into learning experiences.</li></ol>

How to spend your hour

A good rule of thumb to improving ourselves.

From Benjamin Franklin to Elon Musk, the most successful people in the world share one thing: they allocate time in the day to learning.

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Productivity

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Time Management

The 5-hour rule: How to turn a wasted day into a successful one

A perfect organizational system would have to be:<ul><li>universal</li><li>flexible</li><li>simple</li><li>actionable</li><li>cross-platform</li><li>outcome-oriented</li><li>modular</li><li>opportunistic</li></ul>

THE P.A.R.A METHOD

<ul><li>Projects</li><li>Areas</li><li>Resources</li><li>Archives</li></ul>

P.A.R.A. STANDS FOR

Project is “a series of tasks linked to a goal, with a deadline.”Area of responsibility is “a sphere of activity with a standard to be maintained over time.”Resource is “a topic or theme of ongoing interest.”Archives include “inactive items from the other three categories.”

DEFINITION

A project has a goal to be achieved , this goal has a specific moment in time and a deadline or timeframeAn area of responsibility has a standard to be maintained, there is no end date or final outcome. Your performance in this area may wax and wane over time, but the standard continues indefinitely and requires a certain level of attention at all times. Projects always fall into Areas. A few examples:<ul><li>Running a marathon is a project, whereas Health is an area</li><li>Publishing a book is a project, whereas Writing is an area</li></ul>

PROJECTS VS. AREAS OF RESPONSIBILITY

Do you see the problem? Not a single item on this list is a project. Do “vacations” ever end? Is there ever a time when you can cross off “productivity” from your list once and for all? No — these are ongoing areas of responsibility, not projects.

MAKING LIST (1)

You can’t truly know the extent of your commitmentsYou cannot know what to change until you know what you’re committed to. And what you’re committed to is not a collection of vague responsibilities, but a short list of tangible outcomes. In other words, projects.

MAKING LIST (2)

You can’t connect your current efforts to your long-term goalsBy breaking these responsibilities into bite-sized projects (as in the list on the right), you ensure that your Project List will change nearly every week. This creates a rhythm and a momentum of project completion to maintain your motivation. It generates the constant novelty that the latest <a href="https://www.amazon.com/Satisfaction-Science-Finding-True-Fulfillment/dp/080507600X">research</a> suggests is essential for satisfaction.

MAKING LIST (3)

Now imagine if you broke down this “events” area into each individual event that you planned and executed. Not only would this show the clear progression and growth you’ve experienced, each event building on the one before, it would also conveniently provide you with a catalog of outcomes you’ve reached to include in your performance review at year’s end. And you’d have much more than a list — you’d have separate folders for each completed project, with tangible notes, assets, and learnings you’ve produced for each.

MAKING LIST (4)

These are the two tools I recommend for using this method, but you can use any tool you want.<ul><li>Notion</li><li>Obsidian</li></ul>

PERSONAL RECOMMENDATION

This method has helped me to improve the way I organize my life, you should give it a try

Imagine for a moment the perfect organizational system. One that supported and enhanced the work you do, telling you exactly where to put a piece of information, and exactly where to find it when you needed it.  This system would have to be:  universal, encompassing any conceivable kind of information from any source flexible, able to work with any project or activity you take on, now and in the future

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Problem Solving

The PARA Method: A System for Organization 

Back in 1870s, The British Government was troubled by the growing cobra population in and around Delhi. To solve that problem as they started a reward program for every indian that bought a dead snake back to officials.Though the strategy seemed to work initially however, in the desire to get maximum rewards, breeding of cobras proliferated among the enterprising people of India. The British Government thus ended up with more problems the results of their actions could have unintended consequences or Second Order Effects.

Cobra Effect

Second order thinking is a type of advanced critical thinking that involves thinking about one’s own thought processes.It is the ability to look beyond the intended results of our actions and focusing on the unintended consequences of those results.

What is Second Order Thinking?  

Following pointers can help adopt Second order thinking for your decision-making process.1. Results of First Order thinking becomes a problem for second order thinking. It requires one to be observant.2. Think about the range of likely feature outcomes and evaluate your thought processes and assumptions.Ask yourself questions:  Some examples of questions you might ask yourself include What I am assuming ? or then what? or What evidence do I have to support this?We all have biases, and they can influence our thinking and decision making without us even realizing it.

How to think in Second Order thinking ?  

Most of us think and care about only the immediate implications of our decisions/actions don't  consider that our actions could have unintended consequences or Second Order Effects.

December 10, 2022 Second order thinking involves considering multiple perspectives and looking at a problem from multiple angles. 

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