A brief step-by-step explanation of how I deal with stress and anxiety:
<ul>
<li>Step 1 - Identify the Source of Discomfort</li>
<li>Step 2 - Analyze Stressful Thoughts</li>
</ul>
Disclaimer: I'm not a qualified professional of any kind when it comes to human psychology.

Worry Less

When you feel discomfort, the first thing you should do is ask yourself why you are feeling that discomfort. Where does it come from? Is it guilt, something you did in the near or distant past? Is it fear of what could happen in the future? Is it the discomfort of having to do something but not being able to do it now? What is it?
To understand that, you don't have to write down what you have been doing or avoiding until now. You don't have to meditate or even talk to yourself in the mirror for 10 minutes. You just have to calm down, take a deep breath, and focus on what is going on in your mind. It doesn't even take 10 seconds.

Step 1 - Identify the Source of Discomfort

This step is about analyzing the thing that is stressing you out. As mentioned above, there are three main ways of looking at stressful thoughts:
<ul>
<li>Guilt of the past</li>
<li>Procrastination (things you should do now but are putting off)</li>
<li>Fear of what could happen in the future</li>
</ul>
After you look at the situation from the perspective of time, you should start looking for other approaches. Other approaches include:
<ul>
<li>Is it a problem that needs to be solved?</li>
<li>Can I solve it?</li>
<li>Is it my fault? And so on.</li>
</ul>

Step 2 - Analyze Stressful Thoughts

If it is something you did in the past, chances are that you can't change it, and it is not a problem that requires a solution. You should just let go. Forgive yourself and promise to never do it again.
If you wronged somebody else, a smart approach would be to apologize. Tell them that you are sorry and that it will never happen again.
Stop worrying about what happened in the past. There's an Ethiopian saying that goes, "You don't build a house for a winter that is over." It's gone; move on.

Dealing with Guilt

This is what most of us have struggled with and are still struggling with now. Procrastination is the act of putting off tasks that you should do and cannot avoid in the long run.
You should look at it from various angles. Ask yourself questions like, "Why?", "What do I need to start doing the work?", "Who's at fault for not starting the work?" If you can answer these questions, you will get to work in no time.
Answering the above questions will help you understand the problem better. If the reason for your procrastination is mere laziness, get up and start by doing the worst part first.

Handling Procrastination

If there are things you need to have in place to start the work, start getting those things in place. Sometimes it's only a pen.
If there are other people that you need to start the work, call them or send them a text. Tell them that you should get started if you want the work to be done on time.
Don't worry, just do it.

Don't worry, just do it.

Some people are obsessed with the future. They are constantly anxious about what will happen. This arises from self-doubt and procrastination. Solving one solves the other after all.
When you are in a state of fear and anxiety stressing over the future, you should take a deep breath and try to analyze the exact thing that you are afraid of. What decisions can you make to control the outcome? Who controls the outcome? Is there anything you can do about it? If yes, well, just do it. If not, just wait and see what will happen.

Facing Fear

Of course, it is easier said than done. You can't just sit there and stop worrying. You shouldn't worry about things that you can not change, but you can't just switch it off either. There are ways to make it easier. Some of them are:
<ul>
<li>Meditation</li>
<li>Exercise</li>
<li>Going for a walk</li>
<li>Talking to someone you trust</li>
<li>Sleeping</li>
<li>Taking a shower</li>
<li>Most importantly, praying</li>
</ul>

Techniques for Dealing with Anxiety

Identify the cause of your anxiety. Can you solve it? If yes, solve it and don't think about it. If no, stop thinking about it and wait for things to happen. To make it easier, use one of the seven ways to help yourself feel comfortable. Pray to God.

Summary

There is nothing that you know that God doesn't. But there are a lot of things that God knows that you don't. Trust his plan.

Understand yourself and those around you.

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How to Stop Worrying

How to have a high value circle?The following paragraphs will discuss on how to attract people of higher value to build your circle of high value people.

Higher Value

There are places where high value people like to spend their time. Churches, mosques, gyms, libraries, museums, parks and the likes are places where people of higher value are found most of the time. Go to such places and find yourself some good people to hangout with. On the contrary beaches, clubs, and concerts are no places for the kind of people you are looking for. Avoid those places.

Where To Find Them

The first rule to get along with a high value person is, don't try to show-off. You should let them talk and teach you what they know. You should make them your mentors. You learn more in listening than in talking. Try to engage in a thoughtful conversation. Don't waste their time or yours babbling worthless things. Every word, evey sentence that comes out of your mouth should have a meaning and a degree of value to it.

How To Approach Them

To be appealing to a high value person you have to be somewhat high value yourself. You should be trying to get better. You should be on the right path. You shouldn't be too far behind on that path. They don't want to pick you up from the ground and raise you like a child. Teaching and mentoring you should be worthwhile. If you are a lover, a depressed drug addiction, they will want to keep their distance from you. But if you are a good Christian (Muslim), a hardworking and diligent person, and if you already go to the gym, they will try to help you out.

How To Be Appealing To Them

You might ask what you get from high value people if you have to be high value yourself to befriend them in the first place. The fruit is in the journey of trying to befriend them. You build your value to fit in with people who are higher value than you. If you become successful, which of course you will, you will learn a lot from them. Even if you are not too far behind you are still behind them on the path to success. There is always something to learn as long as you are open minded.Finally you will have a network of men who are high value. In business and security network is everything.

What Do I Get

High value people have really high standards, make sure you meet them. You will be high value yourself in the process.

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